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Isn’t it funny how sometimes our blogs create a completely opposite reality of what our lives truly are? It’s just far too easy to become seduced by ideal idea rather than reality, and I think occasionally that shows too often when I write. There are things I wish I could tell you, a lot of it I don’t out of respect for others, but often it is because I am afraid to step out of this cyber-shell I’ve created for myself, anonymity gives me the illusion of protection.
The past six weeks have been tough, physically and emotionally, and I’m having just as tough a time dealing with boundaries. I wish they weren’t necessary, but I’ve learned the hard way boundaries are good. I’m the type of person who wants to share everything; it’s the nature of my beast to do so.
I’ve learned many important things about myself lately, and in doing so I’m now able to release some anger and negative emotions that I have burdened for quite some time. Every day I remind myself that I am not responsible for the actions of others, and every day I remind myself how important forgiveness is, to myself as well as others, and even though I may never completely understand why the specifics of events unfold, I know in my heart what my own worth is and am grateful to be able to share it with those in my life I love.
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I think boundries are good – I keep a pretty wide boundry between the details of my personal life and my blog. Of course I have very few readers as a result because people want details and drama but that’s just not how I roll.
Welcome back from vacation! Can’t wait to hear whatever it is you want to share.
ps- Forgiveness rules! Forgiveness sets us free. Holding a grudge is like drinking arsenic for the soul. Three cheers for forgiveness – no matter where it is directed.
Welcome back from your holiday
Boundries – a hard call, I feel the same as you. Protection is good – having a place to vent is also good – but I have tried to limit what I say to protect the people I love (who will probably never read the words I have badly written), sometimes more than I want slips out after a few glasses of the red late at night.
Looking forward to the holiday report.
It can’t have been easy to write that post Susan.
You’re a sharing person; and funny; and caring; ; and loved; and you run. We all enjoy reading about this small part of the reality of your life.
Set boundaries. Say less; or more if you feel you need to. Take care. Sending (((hugs))) your way.
Susan, do what you need to do.
It’s like we were separated at birth.
um. I’m confused. What happened? Did I miss something?
Take it easy.
Still lurking on a daily basis . . . Just want you to know that I’m glad you keep those boundaries. It’s healthy and necessary.
Take care–
Susan
I write because it is therapeutic but you just can’t put it all out there. I would agree 100% with you; You need those boundries for “protection.”
XOXOX
Hang in there.
ummmmm I’m sorry for whatever I did…hehe You can tell me anything at any time…I have seen your “special” face so I ain’t skeered o nothing!!
Boundaries are good, provided they are respected by everyone. And perhaps pushed when needed. Which, of course, makes them useless then. I’m glad you are learning something that sounds very important to you.
I agree, what happened? I need your email address so I can send you my phone number!! Oh wait, I will send you a text!! Hopefully you have text messaging!! Perhaps we can meet for lunch on
Tuesday? I would love to catch up!!
sounds like you made some progress and did some soul-searching. and you are so right: you can only control yourself, no one else.
excuse me i have to go freak out now bcs i’ll be seeing ex-in laws in four weeks who i haven’t seen in oh, 19 years and they hate my guts…STILL!
peace
I’m plagerizing your words. Cause you said exactly what I have been feeling but couldnt for the life of me get the words out.
i so feel ya there, sister. i too am the type to want to share everything and am learning as i get a wee bit older, that maybe its not always in my best interest to do so. i had a fabulous extended vacay in austin this weekend but like you learned a little bit about myself, and about a certain someone else, that made me stop for a moment and reassess.
this post = wise words, woman!
the positive of the injury; learning about one’s self.
later.
Well my sidewalk psychologist thinks he knows what’s bugging you, Bucky, and he thinks you’ll just have to accept it as a way of life that will eventually diminish the angst in your sweet little soul over the slow course of time.
In the meantime, there are martinis, red wine, that stupid pool training stuff and a whole lot of closets to reorganize.